You should always first know YOUR personality. Is it kind? Is it smart? Is it artistic? How can YOU as a PERSON help someone? Remember small acts of kindness really good far. Knowing you better than anyone else is key. You are you. If you don't know your personality then this really affects your friends. For example, I'm very sweet and smart ( not being modest sorry). I'm sort of introverted until I get to know you and then I'll warm up. I choose friends that people ignore because I feel bad for them. I'm not saying you have to be a fake friend and do it for attention but really you should do it out of the goodness of your heart.